SEEK. FIND.
I'm no psychologist or any ologist for that matter. I mean I believe in logic and science above all but my training is based mostly in common sense via blunt force trauma. Mostly, I notice things. A lot of times those things seem arbitrary and sometimes I notice the same things over and over. Not just over time. Sometimes I see the same thing repeat itself in seemingly different situations on the same day. Yesterday was one of those days. In two different situations I was reminded that when we seek with intent. We find.
Whoa!! "Ease up there Socrates!" you say. "That's obvious." You're not wrong. It just bears reminding.
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The pendulum always over corrects and most times it's in reaction to neglect. As a culture we long ignored our mental well being. Hell on most days I still ignore mine. There's a balance of course and we should look to find it, but the pendulum gained momentum when we started looking inward for traumas, and toxicities. Now I feel it's all we see.
That's an unpopular opinion, I think. At the least it's understated. No one these days dare say that we should worry about our mental health less or that we should not dig in to find the traumatic experiences that can explain why we are how we are, and to be clear, dig in and look hard if there's things you need to work through. What I'm saying is once you've found them, work on them. To continue to seek them out forever and or to constantly lean on them as explanations for why you're the way you are is a fool's game.
Seek trauma. Find trauma.
Seek toxic situations. Continue to find toxicity.
The pendulum. Swings far.
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So what do we do? How can we be a little more self aware and work through the past without steeping ourselves in constant negativity. That's the gazillion dollar question, right? Prepare yourself....are you ready??
I don't know. Well, I kind of know.
Create strategies to walk yourself back.
I told the kids I coach the other day about how quitting is habitual. Once we quit once. It becomes easier and easier to do so. We start to see the reasons to quit in every race. Every discomfort, every side stitch. It rolls down from racing to practice to school to relationships to everything. Once we figure out how to quit. It easier and easier to do so. Further. We justify it. We start finding reasons to quit when they aren't there.
The same can be said about anything we seek out. We find it. It's called self fulfilling prophecy.
What I tell them and I'll tell you is this. You have to find strategies to crawl out. To identify and to make a step. To say. "Yes I found this not so great thing. Now I'll work on it and get better. I won't keep looking for it to happen again and again." It's hard. But it's possible. Always.
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As I reread these missives before hitting send, know that I'm complicit and cognizant that I do the same things. This whole post slides to the negative. If I am being true and following my own advice I should be looking at how to swing this positive and so, I will.
Just as seeking out the bad, yields the bad. Seek the good in your life and you'll find it. Look around. See all the good in your life. Things you take for granted, positives abound, we are mostly numb to our wealth in all things.
Seek the good. Find the good.
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